Love is a necessity for living a happy, healthy, and purposeful life. It is by far one of the single most necessary components of human life, and the basis for healthy human interaction. Everyone needs it for well-being, but it remains elusive to many. Some of us have little to no knowledge of what love is. If you have experienced heartbreak after heartbreak, and you feel like you are a failure at love, now is the time to discover what love is and what love is not. We have been conditioned to believe that love is manipulation, selfishness, fulfilling a material need, the fulfillment of a desire for intimacy, and a host of other things that will always end up as a disappointment. The love that we want ends up not being the love that we need because we have no clue about real love since it bears little resemblance to the love we see in film and television or hear about in songs. There is no guaranteed way to find the love that we need, but approaching your relationships with a realistic understanding of healthy love will certainly improve your odds of success and love. It is time that we learn what real love is and what it is not.