Upper-middle class women are in the throes of the female midlife crisis, as political, social, economic, career, and parenting pressures collide. By centering on our own healing and self-care, white women have largely ignored the needs of other women, reinforcing traditional patriarchal values and culture. Part memoir, part research project, The Deal of the Dollhouse: How Toxic Self-Care Nearly Destroyed Me strives to help progressive, college-educated, white women, feel safe as they start to understand their historical and present-day roles in an often unjust society, without feeling paralyzed, overwhelmed, or judged. If you... Ever feel guilty about taking your kids to Disneyworld because you just saw another shocking statistic about food insecurity in your child's elementary school. Fall into bed exhausted about work, worried about the state of the world, wondering if you ever should have brought kids into this mess. Are overwhelmed by the conflicting messages of "join us and fight the patriarchy" and "sit down, white lady." Can remember vividly the last time you were a "Karen." Dollhouse is the book you'll turn to for answers and inspiration as you start the journey of exploring your privilege, aligning your values, and deeply understanding your story to build a shame-free path to allyship and community.