It is a rare thing to find a match made in heaven, but it s a living challenge to take what you have and improve the worth of it. If it s the passion of love that s lost, find it. This takes compassion. If it s your unrestrained appetite for other women or men, then restrain it. This takes discipline If it s your companion who doesn t want to help find what s lost, fill what s lacking, or fix what s broken, then that companion is not for the family; she or he is bad for you, so get away. This takes strength. If what you have is good, why take it for granted? The man or woman who takes a good thing for granted by acting a fool is confusing things. The most effective method to deal with this is to give him or her some time alone. This takes a season. It can help by either bringing that companion closer or by distancing yourselves. Whatever the results, you should definitely have a final statement of terms to be agreed upon at the end of the season, for the sake of a meaningful purpose. This takes boldness and a made-up mind. There is nothing more powerful and daring than a made-up mind. Anything less is uncivilized. Discipline is a sign of a civilized relationship Zakar Ausar

Author Biography

Grandfather Duncan Sings-Alone has been a Cherokee healer, spiritual teacher, and practicing ceremonialist for nearly 40 years. He is also a fully ordained Soto Zen Buddhist priest and sensei within the Zen Garland Order, where he leads the Red (Native American) Zen path. He guides Red Path Zen Sanghas in Massachusetts, Michigan, and at the Zen Garland mother Zendo in Airmont, New York. He combines both spiritual heritages in his approach to healing, wholeness, and Oneness. Grandfather Sings-Alone lives in Massachusetts with his wife, novelist Priscilla Cogan, and their two shelties.