Memoirs of a Soldiers Wife Everyone has a different story; everyone has a different issue in their life that makes him or her stronger. Across America, many women share the experience and circumstances of being a "soldier's wife".. They share the experience of being lonely, frustrated upset and depressed. What is the general perception of a "soldiers wife"? Overall the depth and understanding of what it takes to fulfill the role of a soldier's wife or military spouse is often discredited or overlooked. Society has made the assumption that military families are well supported and that their households are equally sustained. Many people may simply believe that being married to a US soldier is no different than being married to a US Citizen. If that is your belief, prepare to be enlightened.