In this manual, relationships counsellor Anne Nicholls explains that finding and keeping a positive and happy relationship is not an impossible dream. Here she seeks to arm the reader with a toolkit of tried and tested strategies to help you break the negative patterns of the past, allow you to spot early on who is right for you, and keep your new relationship strong and nurturing. Topics covered include: erasing your old relationship rules and finding new positive ones; learning how to recover from past hurt; learning strategies for checking that a new partner is right for you; determining whether it is love or infatuation; learning how to make the transition from singles to couple; maintaining comfort and security in a relationship; using strategies for dealing with conflict and disagreements; and avoiding booby traps.