So many people struggle silently with feeling good enough and going above and beyond their limits in order to achieve "perfection". They're successful at work and in their personal lives, but this comes at a significant emotional, mental, and sometimes physical toll. They want an escape, they want permission to stop, slow down, or have things be somewhat easier, but they're scared to make change because they're not sure what that looks like or the implication on their careers, relationships, and personal identity. "Who am I outside of my accomplishments"? "Who am I outside of being someone who does things for other people?" "Who am I if I'm not always working or doing something?" This book will provide the social and cultural context for how these tendencies towards perfectionism emerge. By having a better sense of why we have bought into a narrative of "more is better" and perpetual optimization and doing better, people can start to re-align how they want to live. Written by an Asian American therapist who has lived experience with managing her own perfectionism, this blend of advice and perspective will help come up with their own solutions to problematic perfectionistic tendencies and gain a better understanding of how they want to make values-driven decisions in their lives.