Appreciation is the basis for holidays, and is a great part of love. With appreciation in the present, the past will become memories free of regret. Appreciation means a realization of value. Value of time, effort, good qualities, and presence. What you appreciate immensely may not be the same as other people. To become aware of what you value will free you from trying to prove yourself to others, or trying to change them to become a match to you. You should be appreciated not only for what you do, but for who you are as well. In order to gauge if that's happening or not, you have to first learn how to recognize and appreciate your own great qualities. How you perceive yourself will determine what you accept or reject from others. It seems difficult to appreciate challenges or obstacles in life, but within them are some of the greatest gifts you will ever receive. Receiving can be uncomfortable for many good people, but it is the inhale to the exhale of giving, and is a fundamental part of true connection. Learn how to receive with appreciation and allow good to flow into your life without guilt.