Marriage counselors Robert and Rosemary Barnes believe the most important sex organ is the mind. While there are plenty of well-written Christian books on sex technique, the Barnes focus on attitudes and expectations that affect sex lives and marriages in their new book, "Great Sexpectations." "It's a book written to help married couples take the leap from just 'having sex' to the ecstasy of 'making love'," say the authors. "Expectations come from many places, and they can be an enemy to a marriage if they are not looked at, understood, and controlled, " say the Barnes. They begin by explaining where expectations come from. They explore how family relationships and society influence how spouses believe their partners should behave sexually. Many times spouses don't know what is expected of them., or their expectations are based on bad relationships or society myths. Seven chapters are devoted to myths that cause errors in expectations and problems in a couple's sex life, such as: "What you see is what you get; " "My spouse responds the same way I do; " and "Couples are born compatible." "Great Sexpectations" also deals with complications to lovemaking: building a relationship around children, dealing with affairs, sexual and non-sexual, and how to respond to a spouse who is uninterested. Throughout this section The Barnes' stress communication, understanding, forgiveness, and patience as the keys to building and rebuilding the sexual relationship.
Table of Contents
Contents Acknowledgments Introduction Part One * Your Expectations 1. My Expectations Went Out to Lunch 2. Where Do My Expectations Come From? 3. Myth: What You See Is What You Get 4. Myth: My Spouse Responds the Same Way I Do 5. Myth: Foreplay Occurs Just Before Intercourse 6. Myth: I Can't Respond to Nothing 7. Myth: Good Sex Is When You Fill My Wish List 8. Myth: Good-bye Passion, Good-bye Love 9. Myth: Couples Are Born Compatible Part Two * Complications to Lovemaking 10. Love in the Time of Children 11. Affairs We Never Knew We Were Having 12. The Intimacy Earthquake 13. When She's Not Interested 14. When He's Not Interested Part Three * Having Sex or Making Love 15. Learning to Love 16. Make It an Event 17. Start Your Own Affair at Home Notes
Dr. Robert and Rosemary Barnes are conference speakers and coauthors of Rock-Solid Marriage and We Need to Talk. Dr. Robert Barnes is executive director of Sheridan House Family Ministries, the author of several books, host of the weekly "Family Time Radio" program, and writer of a newspaper column on family issues. Rosemary Barnes is a frequent national conference speaker with Robert on marriage and family issues. Robert Barnes y Rosamaria Barnes son hablantes en conferencias y escritor de Casamiento de Roca Solida, y Nosotros Necesitamos ablar. Dr. Roberto Barnes es director executivo de Sheridan casa de familia ministerio, es escritor de muchos libros, invitado semanal " Tiempo en Familia" programa de radio, y escritor de columnas en el periodico " Cosas de Familia" Rosamaria Barnes es una frecuente hablante de la conferencia nacionales con Roberto en matrimonios y cosas de familia.