Do you know what to expect when your marriage is over?Separation and divorce are overwhelming, and can come 'out of the blue;' especially for us men. If you're reading this, you already know that the emotional fallout is not the only thing you need to deal with. The emotional toll is hard, and now life is hard too.-Who should (and shouldn't') you talk to about what's going on?-Where is your money is going? What bills do you have? Do you have more money coming in that going out? And will it be the same in 3 months?-What are your legal obligations and rights for the Divorce, the property settlement and the kids?-What do you do with all this extra time you have without feeling at a loose end? -What's involved in finding somewhere else to live more permanently?-What do you need to do today to make sure that when your day in Court comes next year everything runs smoothly?When 2 Becomes U is written in plain English in a humorous conversational style by people who have lived through it, as well as information from experts in their relevant fields. Have you: -changed all your passwords? -opened a new bank account? -informed your bank and the kid's school that you have separated? -had your name removed from the utility bills from your old place? -organised a PO Box for your mail so that you don't have to keep changing your address any time you move until you find somewhere more permanent to live? When 2 Becomes U answers these questions (and more) to prepare you for what to expect in the coming months, and provides advice, examples and experiences from others who have been through what you are going through, combined with information from experts to help you get back up after your marriage breaks down. What questions do you have? 1. Why you are not alone. There's 50,000 couples divorcing every year in Australia. Some of them have contributed to this book to help you prepare for what you will be going through.2. Things to do: Today. What actions (like sending an email to confirm the date you separated) do you need to take today to set yourself up for the future.3. Why you need to write everything down.4. How to decide which friend to ask; "Hey mate, can I crash at your place?"5. Who should I talk to? And who shouldn't I talk to?6. What are some ways to understand your emotions and help you get your emotional shit together (for the moment)?7. Why you suddenly can't do simple things like make decisions anymore.8. Where all your money is going and how to keep it under control.9. How to talk to your Ex. The right way. Not the way that will make things worse.10. What's involved in finding, inspecting, renting your new permanent pad.11. What to expect in the move and how to make it (marginally) less painful.12. Your New Place. What you can, and can't do to make the place your own.13. The Pros and Cons of being single: You can do whatever you want and no-one will stop you. Con: You can do whatever you want and no-one will stop you.14. Eating. You can't survive on Beer, Pizza and vitamins forever (apparently).15. Talking to the Lawyers. What they need to know. What you need to know. What the process is.16. Sorting out the finances and splitting your 'Stuff'. What's yours is yours and what's mine is... oh damn it.17. The Formal Process. Here's what's going to happen when you get down and get legal.18. Going to Court. This is it. The big day. What to expect, and how to prepare yourself.