How Men Think

“An interesting tool for working with gender differences.“
—John Gray
Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
Men at work do it all the time: They brag, cover up their mistakes, pretend to know what they don’t, start fights. And they still get ahead! Why? As psychologist Adrienne Mendell learned when she interviewed one-hundred male executives, the traits that women spend their entire lives erasing from their personalities are actually the qualities that men value in the world of work. And since men are still in the power positions, if you don’t play it their way, you don’t play at all.
Based on Mendell’s interviews and her experience of counseling hundreds of frustrated career women, How Men Think identifies the seven rules that men learned by playing sports as children—games that excluded girls. These rules may seem simple on the surface, but understanding them as men do is anything but easy. You may have fallen into many of these traps yourself:

• You’re mad because you want your male boss to let you control your projects. But you’ve got to take control—that’s the only way you’ll get it.
• You’re steamed because a male colleague consistently takes credit for your work. Do you make a point of touting your accomplishments?
• When you make a mistake you apologize. But the man you apologize to doesn’t think you’re polite—he thinks you’re admitting incompetence.
• A fight with a male colleague leaves you shaken. But the men in your office shout at each other for an hour and then go out for a beer.
  These are the times that try women’s souls! The strategies, insights, and eye-opening advice in How Men Think will help you get along better with the boys and propel you to the top where you belong.
  “The more women have opportunities to play sports the more proficient they will become in competing in this men’s world of ‘unwritten rules.’ To bridge the gap, Mendell’s book, How Men Think, is a necessary guide for women working with men.”
  —Diane Everett, Ph.D. Executive Director National Association for Girls and Women in Sport