A breakthrough discovery in communication for transforming love relationships Over and over couples consistently name "improved communication" as the greatest need in their relationships. Love Talk--by acclaimed relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott--is a deep yet simple plan full of new insights that will revolutionize communication in love relationships. The first steps to improving this single most important factor in any marriage or love relationship are to identify your fear factors and determine your personal communication styles, and then learn how the two of you can best interact. In this no-nonsense book, "psychobabble" is translated into easy-to-understand language that clearly teaches you what you need to do--and not do--for speaking each other's language like you never have before.
Love Talk includes: *The Love Talk Indicator, a free personalized online assessment to help you determine your unique talk style *The Secret to Emotional Connection *Charts and sample conversations *The most important conversation you'll ever have *A short course on Communication 101 *Appendix on Practical Help for the "Silent Partner" Two softcover "his and hers" workbooks are full of lively exercises and enlightening self-tests that help couples apply what they are learning about communication directly to their relationships. Love Talk is also available as an abridged Audio Pages(R) CD.
Table of Contents
CONTENTS Acknowledgments 11 Prologue: Charting Your Conversational Course 13 PART ONE: LET'S TALK ABOUT TALKING 1. CAN WE TALK?Why We Wrote This Book 21 2. RELATIONAL LIFEBLOOD: 25 Why Communication Is Vital to Your Love Life 3. COMMUNICATION 101: 37 Brushing Up on the Basics 4. THE FOUNDATION OF EVERY 49 GREAT CONVERSATION: Uncovering Your Fear Factor PART TWO: HOW YOU SAY THE THINGS YOU DO 5. HOW DO YOU TACKLE PROBLEMS? 63 Aggressively or Passively 6. HOW DO YOU INFLUENCE EACH OTHER? 71 With Feelings or Facts 7. HOW DO YOU REACT TO CHANGE? 81 With Resistance or Acceptance 8. HOW DO YOU MAKE DECISIONS? 89 Cautiously or Spontaneously 9. YOUR UNIQUE TALK STYLE: 95 Taking the Love Talk Indicator PART THREE: ENJOYING LOVE TALK 10.TALKING A FINE LINE: 101 The Secret to Emotional Connection 11. MEN ANALYZE, WOMEN SYMPATHIZE: 111 Now It Makes Sense 12. LISTENING WITH THE THIRD EAR: 121 Can You Hear Me Now? 13.WHEN NOT TO TALK: 137 The Paradox of Every Relationship 14.LET'S TALK LOVE: 147 The Most Important Conversation You'll Ever Have Epilogue: The Ultimate Message of Love Talk 161 Appendix A: Practical Help for the Silent Partner 163 Appendix B: A Sample Report from the Love Talk Indicator 171 Notes 183 About the Authors 187
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are codirectors of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University (SPU), a groundbreaking program dedicated to teaching the basics of good relationships. Les Parrott is a professor of clinical psychology at SPU, and Leslie is a marriage and family therapist at SPU. The Parrotts are authors of the Gold Medallion Award--winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. They have also written Love Talk, I Love You More, Your Time-Starved Marriage, and the Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring. They have been featured on Oprah, CBS This Morning, CNN, and The View, and in USA Today and the New York Times. They are also frequent guest speakers and their radio program, Love Talk, is carried by stations throughout North America. They live in Seattle, Washington, with their two sons. www.RealRelationships.com Drs. Les y Leslie Parratt son codirectores de Center for Relationship Development en Seattle Pacific University (SPU). Les Parrott es profesor en una clinica de psicologia en SPU, y Leslie es terapeuta de familia y matrimonio en SPU. Los Parrotts son escritores y ganadores del Medallon de Oro Salva Tu Matrimonio Antes que Empieze, Amor Es, Relasiones, y Cuando Malas Cosas Pasan a Un Buen Matrimonio. Ellos se an estado presentando en Oprah CBS Esta Manana, en El Paisaje, USA Hoy y en New York Tiempo. Ellos tambien son hablantes frecuentes y han escrito para una variedad de revistas ellos viven en Seattle, Washington con sus dos hijos. Dr. Leslie Parrott is a marriage and family therapist and codirector with her husband, Dr. Les Parrott, of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. She is the author of God Made You Nose to Toes, and coauthor with her husband of several bestselling books, including The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring, Relationships, Love Talk, and the Gold Medallion Award-winner, Saving Your Marriage before It Starts. Leslie is a columnist for Today's Christian Woman and has been featured on Oprah, CBS Morning, CNN, and The View, and in USA Today and he New York Times. The Parrotts' radio program, Love Talk, is carried by stations throughout North America. Leslie lives in Seattle with her husband and their two sons. www./RealRelationships.com