Do you feel safe with the person(s) with whom you presently live? Marriage is like an insurance policy. It's also a cottage industry. You have to work together even if you're not together in the same work place. This book is for the time when you don't feel safe with your spouse or partner. When your partner doesn't have your back...and isn't there for you when you need a soul mate and a friend for all seasons. When your partner/spouse calls you a loser and sometimes complains to strangers or relatives about you behind your back. You've stayed for decades, devoted, dependent, and staying for the free rent because you don't have the confidence that you'd be able to afford living on your own or feel too old to work full time for the money it takes to be financially dependent. And you know your spouse or partner is waiting to outlive you to inherit any savings you've kept. How do you forage for a soul mate that will care for you when you can no longer care for yourself and your money runs out? Life after eighty is a healing art.... You marry at the level of your self- esteem of the moment. What happens when the level of self-esteem changes either for you or your partner? If your greatest fear is loss of control of your body in a world that is not able to care for you, and you have no income or money, no friends or relatives you can trust, then we're in the same boat. If you want to remove yourself from the stress, impatience, and conflict of those you fear will be your caregivers, here are some ways that we can help one another.