What are we hiding from ourselves? Why do we find ourselves disproportionately angry with the selfishness of a friend, the laziness of a co-worker, the arrogance of a family member - or even the rudeness of a stranger? Why do the same old things get to us so easily, and so intensely? Our 'same old things', Debbie Ford explains, are clues to our dark sides - and to the emotions and traits that we fear most in ourselves. In this enlightening guide, she explains how - consciously or unconsciously - we hide and deny out dark sides, rejecting these aspects of our true natures rather than giving ourselves the freedom to live authentically. She shows us that it is possible to acknowledge and accept our so-called weaknesses - and that, in fact, these qualities may prove to be important, hidden strengths. Perhaps a touch of 'laziness' is just what the workaholic needs; perhaps some judicious 'selfishness' can save us from exhaustion and resentment. Through the illuminating stories in this book, Debbie Ford shows us how to reconcile our darker impulses and find the gifts they offer - reclaim out wholeness once again. 'Debbie Ford guides us past the self-punishing patterns that often bind us. Her ideas are exceptionally compelling.' Marianne Williamson, author of A Course in Weight Loss